Let’s talk about depression

I wanted to stop by and say a huge thank you for all of your support with regards my post a couple of weeks ago. I’m feeling a lot better, I’m not one hundred per cent but I’m able to sit up right most days so in my book that is damn good. Depression isn’t something I can ‘get over’ or shrug off by smiling or thinking about ‘the one life I have’ but with a bit of fight and determination I can dig myself out of the hole and keep on keeping on.

I received so, so many comments, emails and letters after I published that post. I’ve read every single one of them but I haven’t replied just yet because I’m not really in the right head space but I will, I promise. I means the world that so many of you took time out of your day to read my post, to wish me well and to share your experiences. Thank you so much, I mean it.

I made a video last week about depression, talking about it seemed to sit better with me at that moment in time than writing it all down. I shared it on YouTube last week but I wanted to share it here because I know not everyone hangs around on the tubes of you 24/7.

If you can’t view the embedded version you can hop over to my youtube channel and watch it there, here is a handy link.

Charities and organisations in the UK and Ireland which I’ve found helpful -
Mind – http://www.mind.org.uk/
Samaritans – http://www.samaritans.org/
NHS Live Well – http://www.nhs.uk/LiveWell/Mentalhealth/Pages/Mentalhealthhome.aspx
Spun Out – http://www.spunout.ie/about/

If you’ve found a particular resource helpful please feel free to share in the comments.


P.S. Thanks for reading and watching.

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  1. Have you seen Ruby Wax’s TED talk about Mental Health? I watched it last night and got on my soap box.

    I haven’t had depression (I think I’ve had the blues where i’ve not felt quite right but not the extend of anti-depressants and suicidal thoughts) but having been the first on scene when my friend attempted to take his own life, taken him to a+e under police escort and then repeated the same events 4 or 5 times to different health providers I was questioning my sanity let alone his. I have no idea how he would have dealt with all of that if it hadn’t been for me being there to answer the doctors questions – where they didn’t specifically need his opinion.

  2. Well done for being brave enough to actually vlog about this. I’ve been struggling with my own mind for a couple of years now and it’s actually one of the reasons I dropped out of uni – I started getting the suicidal thoughts again, which is never a good thing. I think I should go to the doctor x

  3. Thank you for giving people a voice and thank you for being honest and truthful about a very difficult subject.

    Maria xxx

  4. Oh my, you have the most gorgeous speaking voice ever!!!!!! Oooooh I could listen to you giving a daily update in this way. Whether it’s on depression (well done for this post today by the way, I think a lot of people will benefit from listening to you) or on your Poundland purchases.
    I really am delighted to hear you are feeling a little better, thanks for sharing all your thoughts.
    Gem x x

  5. I stumbled on your blog last week and cannot keep away. It’s really charming and so are you. I’m a keen op-shopper and aspirational Frugal Queen. I became very adept and creative after years of uni and then low paid jobs in the arts and community sector. This has tended to fall by the way side in recent years. Your blog has inspired me now.
    Great post by the way. It was mental health week here in Australia last week. Sending you best regards and thank you for sharing.

  6. I loved your video, Thrifty. You were so honest and brave and a great comfort to a suffer of manic depression and anxiety, which I have been for a few years now. I don’t usually like to put links in comments as I think its a bit… I don’t know, bold? Haha, but I wrote a post about my experiences with depression a few months ago and a piece trying to remove the stigma and taboo attached to and surrounding mental health. If you’d like to read, its here: http://www.the-cameras-lying.com/2012/04/lets-talk-about-depression.html

  7. Hurrah for sitting up :D xxx

  8. Excellent post: thank you! You really are an inspiration (in many ways, not just the thriftiness).

  9. I’m going to watch your video later today. Well done you for doing something and letting others realise they aren’t the only ones that may suffer, and there is help and support.
    I’m running the Brighton half marathon next year for the Blurt Foundation as mental health/depression is a cause extremely close to my heart due to family members suffering. I’ve seen how hard it can be, and the effects on the person and those around them. It’s time we changed the way others see those with mental health problems no matter how big or small they are. Stamp out the stigma and let’s help those fight. x

  10. You have done very well!!! You are so brave to go on webcam and Talk about it. I couldnt talk about mibe. Mind it you doesnt help when you have a family who doesnt support you! Sadly I am on private healthcare as the NHS nearly killed me. I feel a liot happier and a lot clearer nowadays. So keep smiling huggs all round allie xxx

  11. You are an amazing woman.
    I really admire your courage in being so open in your posts. I tried to leave a comment on your post a couple of weeks ago, but after three failed attempts I gave up. I was trying to say that you are very brave to be so open and honest, and I’m sure you have helped people with your wise words.
    I am so pleased that you are feeling better, and I hope that you continue to recover. Best wishes too to Mr T.,I am sure that he looked after you well when you needed support.
    You are an amazing woman.

  12. This is a great video and it made me stop and think more. Just that little ‘how are you?’ to friends that suffer might make all the difference. Take care and thank you so much for doing this.

  13. stumbled on your blog last week and have been checking daily ever since to see if i can catch up on something i missed.
    Great to talk about depression as so many worry about talking and being honest. I think your AMAZING and kepp up the great work.

    p.s. having fallen out of love with charity shops for a while, your hauls have convinced me to go back to it! good skills

  14. Thank you for such an inspiring video and blog post. I’m going through the same things and in a desperate bid to improve my mood, I’m trying to change my outlook on life. I’ve even started a new blog http://thescienceofhappy.blogspot.com as my old blog seemed to focus more on material possessions and that’s not what life is about. I wish you all the best and my continued support.


  15. Its great of you to talk about it. Its not mentioned enough xxx


  16. Thank you so much for being brilliant and brave and an inspiration. It will get better and I wish you the sincerest get well soon! Thank you again!
    PS this video made me very very emotional- Especially the Lupus bit, as a sufferer myself I onyl know how much the mind and body are connected.

    Thanks xxx

  17. You continue to be such a brave inspiration! I have to admit, I work within MH services and somehow failed to know it was World Mental Health Day, how terrible is that?! Here’s you inspiring millions whilst it completely passed me by! I completely agree with you about the physical health v mental health stigma, my hope is that one day (soon) people will grow to be accustomed to MH as they have with physical health. As someone who has struggled with mental health for years, I find it incredibly hard, I seem to have surrounded myself (mostly) with friends who dont seem to really understand mental health and almost seem to either ignore my symptoms or dont recognise them, this then leaves me feeling pretty isolated or like I cant approach them. The people that do recognise, dont seem to have the patience to unpick/say the right things to people in that situation, and i think this is a result of not having the right skills to know what to do. That’s why i totally think we should all be taught MH CPR from a young age, as we are with CPR for physical conditions! I also hope that by more people like you speaking out and sharing your story, people can help/feel they have people to turn to. Thank you xx

  18. Great video- well done for making such a clear and intelligent appeal about what can be a taboo subject. :)

  19. Thank you for your openness and honesty. I thoroughly recommend the writings of Dorothy Rowe on depression and related subjects. While in the depths of depression about thirty years ago I decided to experiment with putting her ideas into practice, and I have never stopped since, because I have found them to be so sound and so helpful!

  20. Thank you for your openness and honesty. I thoroughly recommend the writings of Dorothy Rowe on depression and related subjects. While in the depths of depression about thirty years ago I decided to put her ideas into practice as an experiment. I have never stopped the ‘experiment’, as I have found it completely, and literally, life-saving. All the best for the future.

  21. Oh, love you. So glad you’re feeling better. Brave blog, I think you are wonderful for doing this – a down to earth, helpful, insightful video.
    Big hug, keep up the good work of looking after you, you are very important to us readers and very much loved xxx Claire

  22. How brave of you to make this video ,and share your condition ,I finally saw my Doc about four years ago ,after what I thought was a heart attack,it turned out …yes you guessed it an anxiety attack,Me! I had been a successful,confident person .manager of a sheltered housing scheme for the elderly,Until I retired eight years ago. I was helped so much by my lovely lady Doctor,Who prescribed sertraline,she explained it is a chemical imbalance ,I still have down days but manage to keep gong ,You should never tell people to ‘pull them selves together ‘dont you think that is just what we want too but sometimes its not that easy ,And erm on your video you said,12 to 70…. I will be 72 next year hee hee ,I read your blog all the time,and love it …..love Jan xx

  23. Thank you for helping to raise MH. I find the black dog books very helpful. Sending hugs xx

  24. It is amazing of you to be brave enough to share such a thing with everyone. I really admire that, you’re a great person! :)

    Sophie :)

  25. Fab video!

    For people who live in Northern Ireland, Aware Defeat Depression and Lifeline are two great mental health related services.

  26. I’m 100% with you re.how people with ‘invisible illnesses’ can get treated. I have a very painful bladder condition (interstitial cystitis – a form of ongoing cystitis) and because my symptoms aren’t noticeable externally people don’t always take it so seriously.

    I too have had a fantastic experience of the NHS and couldn’t fault the service.

    I really feel your pain and I hope you find some relief soon xxx

  27. Great blog! I’m your new Follower! I hope you can visit my blog sometimes.. Thank you! :)
    Kisses from VV!!

  28. Thank you for being brave enough to post these. It means a lot to see someone else having to go through the motions of the same sort of things as I see every day – and it’s inspiring to see you come out the other side of it and keep going.

    I love all your other posts too, by the way! This one just stands out <3

  29. Lots of hugs to you. Glad you are emerging from the “darkness” I know what it is like and every time I hear someone say “Just pull yourself together” or “What have you got to be depressed about” I want to deck them.
    We “nutters” (I am one of them and proud of it) have to speak out more, it is the only wak that non-sufferers can hope to understand. Or even the way to reassure those who have arrived on the dark side that they are not alone, they are not odd and it has been shown that people with higher intelligence are more prone to depression. I keep repeating that one to myself.
    I won’t take tablets but my dogs are my greatest therapy.
    Best wishes to all fellow nutters.

  30. I can’t really find the right words for what I want to express so instead i’ll say: You are an inspiration. Truly. I hope you’re back to your normal self soon. xx

  31. I went through a time when I couldn’t feel anything, no emotions. I knew they were there love. hurt, etc. but couldn’t even have a good cry.

  32. I don’t know what to say, really. But thank you. Look after yourself, and the 30 year old Mr Thrifty. Be kind to yourself. xx

  33. I’m a therapist who has just blogged some tips on depression and anxiety and such, I hope you don’t mind me leaving the link for people to have a read, feel free to remove if this is not permitted. I wish you a speedy recovery from your current struggles :)


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