It was a strange experience 'meeting' you on the main road this morning. I'm not sure where you're from but it is customary to introduce oneself and perhaps even say "how do you do?" upon first meeting someone around these parts. I won't look down on you for not knowing that, perhaps you weren't lucky enough to have the mannered upbringing I did?
Had you shouted 'you're fat!' from a moving car at me just a year ago, I'd be crushed. I'd probably be crying my eyes out and feasting on a lorry load of doughnuts but I'm not. I'm not crying because I pity you. I'm fat, I know I am. I'm not going to say I don't have a problem with it but for now, this is the way it is going to stay. Most people have mirrors in their homes and even if they don't, they probably catch their reflection in a window from time to time. Us fatties know we're fat, we don't shove pizza into our gobs and instantly lose the ability to look in a mirror. Did I miss the day at school where they took you into the assembly hall and told you fat people can't see or lack self-awareness? Your teachers were misinformed.
I'm not sure why you're so angered by my weight. Is it my drain on the NHS and your tax pennies? I'm pretty sure my parents are pissed off that their taxes were so grossly wasted in educating you or giving your parents the skills to drag you up with manners.
Enjoy your weekend. I'm off to eat a fuck load of buns.
TTFN,
P.S. I blogged earlier but you probably won't like it because it's just a fat girl larking around.
God some people are so rude, what gave him the right to be so obnoctious (where is spellcheck when you need it?) Take no notice after all he's obviously a complete MORON!!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your buns
Hugs
Pene
mmm buns! i'm off to the chippy :) xxxx
ReplyDeleteWell put. Why do complete strangers feel the need to hurl unnecessary abuse at others?
ReplyDeleteIn a similar vein, I have a friend who is 6ft4 and I get really cross at people who approach him to point out "aren't you tall!". This statement-of-obviousness may not be as obnoxious as the comment you received today, but I still don't understand why these people think he may be unaware of his stature. That, like Tom Hanks in "Big", he woke up that morning having grown 2ft overnight and needs people to point out how tall he is...
On the other side of the unnecessary-shouting scale, what exactly do men hope to achieve by yelling "compliments" at women in the street. Perhaps someone takes them aside as youngsters and fills their head with made-up tales of how 1-in-10 women respond to "Nice tits!" with "Thank you, kind Sir. Would you care to touch them?"?!
Sorry... rant done :) x
I thought of a tall friend myself, she can't stand people commenting all the time on her tallness.
DeleteAnd people have always felt they had to comment on my weight, since I'm very thin. Yeah, I must be unaware of my thinness, and even of being anorexic (!! - never been! I love food), so thanks for pointing that out. I needed that.
Why are people so hateful and nosy?! :-(
What a sad inner life this man must have, that he thought this particular mental gem was something so insightful, so startling and important, that it needs must be shared with the world...
ReplyDeleteYou bring so much to the world. I've been reading your blog from across the world for a few years now, and I enjoy it so much. Hold your head high! You are gorgeous, intelligent and charming. And I don't think there is a diet or exercise programme in the world that can address this "gentleman's" issues.
It happens to everyone..you are beautiful, he is an ignorant twazzock.
ReplyDeleteI am larger too. I get abused pretty much daily for the way I look. I am a size 16, have big boobs and a big bum, wide hips and a round chubby face. I am mocked and called all the names under the sun by people in passing cars, mothers in the playground at my son's school..kids of those mothers..I get called 'fat' 'ugly' and of course I get all the boobs comments you can imagine (which I hate) and I'm not gonna lie, it hurts. BUT..I always try and feel better by thinking that I am a good person. I have no need to be an arsehole for no reason, to anybody. I'm unhappy with myself, sure, but not enough to feel so insecure I have to pick on others to turn attention away from me.
You clearly have manners, you are dignified and interesting! So much so you have actual real-life people with brain cells reading your blog on purpose every day and WANTING to see your face, find out about your outfits, purchases and keep up to date with your life.. We may not know you in 'real' life..but we like you enough to come here on purpose and enjoy your company, so he can bugger off. They all can, all the sad pathetic people with nothing better to do than hate. HOW SAD to be like that.
Enjoy your buns :D and feel safe in the knowledge that tonight he's probably catching herpes off some bony trout he met in a pub whilst drowning his sorrows about how pathetic his life is. Winner. xxxx
The sad thing is this doesn't surprise me.People are getting more and more rude and uncaring of others and their feelings.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was young my mother used to say...before you speak..THINK...'Is it kind...is it true...is it necessary.
So sorry you have had such a horrible,hurtful experience.
I won't say what I think of said individual,or you just might have to censor me! :0)
What an idiot, he's probably got very small 'feet'. I am on the large side myself, like you not something I particularly like but that's how it is at the moment. Don't worry about him, his opinion isn't worth anything, small minded and rude, bet his mother would be so proud.
ReplyDeleteChin up chick, I think you look great.
Hugs Jill x
What an eejit! Unfortunately there are a fair few of them around. I would like to think people like that are like dinosaurs, soon to be extinct along with all the racists, homophobics, sexists, ageist's (and all the other ists) What narrow small lives they must lead.
ReplyDeleteI snorted with laughter at the last bit!
ReplyDeleteNoone has the right to say shit like that to you though. My ex boyfriend's brother wrote this poem. He has Asperger's syndrome and has had a lot of name calling in his life.
'Karma pays people back'
Karma pays people back
Don't point the finger
because two fingers point back
Like my Nan say
You should always watch your own back.¨
It always stuck in my head. I think it is true that the things people to do to others and the spite and mean mindedness will ultimately make their own lives quite rubbish.
You are one of the good guys. Just keep on being you. xxx
Sad bastard! Try not to let him get to you. He's obviously got his own issues. It's sad really but I used to think that bullying and taunts didn't happen once you grew up. What a sad state it is that adults can still treat each other so cruelly. You're fabulous, sod him! X
ReplyDeleteThat is really rubbish. People are unbelievable- I often despair of the human race. From the man that shouted out a car at me when I was nine months pregnant that I was 'a dirty bitch', to the man that stole my car parking space at the childrens hospital yesterday when I was taking my wee one to an appointment. You enjoy those buns and you are a beautiful woman and you are doing great stuff every day. Good on you and a hug from Glasgow, Jo xx
ReplyDeletepah! arse to him!....keep smiling pretty lady.x:)
ReplyDeleteDear Man who called Thrifty Mrs 'fat'
ReplyDeleteYou, sir, are a cock.
Yours most sincerely,
Flo
What a prick. I hate people like that. I'm so used to being around lovely people it always shocks me when people are that rude.
ReplyDeleteYou're fabulous x
Unlike you he is obviously an ignorant, obnoxious pile of chicken droppings. Clearly he has inadequacy issues and to compensate he feels the need to make everyone feel bad. I'd say 'Screw him' but you are far to classy for that
ReplyDeleteI hate people. I can never fathom the "shouting out of a moving car" thing either. I sometimes get people shouting "Ginger!" at me, as if I can't possibly have noticed what colour of hair I have, and need a complete stranger to point it out to me. Idiots.
ReplyDeleteOh, that poor, sad thing! There's something that people don't know about us fat chicks. Fat chicks can lose weight if we choose but a-holes will always be a-holes, no matter what! When people do terrible things, I often wonder what happened to them to make their lives so miserable that they feel the need to put others down. I also wonder, what kind of coward yells "fat" at a women from a moving vehicle. If a guy feels the need to act a fool, it would be nice if he had the cahones to pull over and voice his opinion. At any rate, you're beautiful and adorable and we love you! x
ReplyDeleteAh Gahd!!! Would you ever do that??! NO! He obviously leads a sad and unfulfilling life. What a loser. You have talent, beauty... and MANNERS! Hope you flicked 2 fingers at him though! x
ReplyDeleteYou're gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteYou're so awesome.
ReplyDeleteWhat a complete and utter toss-pot that bloke must be - and he obviously has some serious mental health issues if he gets his kicks by shouting abuse at complete strangers.
ReplyDeleteI'm a 'full-figured gal' too and know I would be really upset if someone shouted 'you're fat' at me. Yes, I am fat and I know I'm fat but do such wazzocks really feel it necessary to point it out!! Personally, I think there is far too much size Nazi-ism in the media these days and that seems to make it OK for morons to then have a pop at larger people.
I hope you enjoy your buns, and don't let the barstewards get you down.
That bloke was a total ****!
ReplyDeletePeople always make references to my red hair, yes I know its bright ginger. But' d'know what, I wouldn't change being a natural redhead for the world, its what makes me different. And to the tracksuited pissheads that shout out, "oi ginger!" on a night out, they just make me want to dye my hair even brighter :D
ReplyDeleteI'm A GINGER too... some people lack imagination.
DeleteP.S. but not the people who wrote the 128 entries for 'ginger' on Urban Dictionary
P.P.S. never heard the one about gingers having no soul before o_0
There's always one! I am guessing he is not erudite, witty or in possession of considerable personal style. Whereas you certainly are.
ReplyDeleteJane
I can't understand why some people think they have the right to degrade and judge other people. I am furious for you, because where I am standing I can see a wonderful, beautiful person who I enjoy interacting with online.
ReplyDeleteF*** him, he is just a w*****!
Sorry about the overuse of stars there!
Love ya thrifty!
I fucking love you for writing this. You're amazing!!
ReplyDeleteYeah, I am sorry you had that experience, sadly the arse who you had the misfortune to encounter is not the only one who thinks we haven't noticed our size. I have actually said, 'you don't say, OH MY GOD, why didn't someone tell me before now, I had no idea, just kill me now'. It was met with a blank look. Really though, I have a very slim friend and she has to put up with size comments all the time, from family, friends and strangers 'Oh my goodness you are so thin aren't you'. Day in and day out, it really hurts her feelings because she is paranoid about looking like a walking skeleton. It just shows that its not necessarily a 'fat' issue, just really bad manners as you say.
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Some people are so rude! There is no need for it!
ReplyDeleteYou missed 'is a twat' off your title.
ReplyDeleteSorry you had this happen, don't let him ruin your day. If it's any consolation I obviously walk around with a face like a slapped arse as I pretty frequently get unasked for advice to 'smile love' from men in vans.
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***Faith Hope and Charity Shopping first blogiversary giveaway open now***
Sadly the guy who said it meant to hurt you - he's a bully plain and simple, picking on someone else for whatever reason it's wrong.
ReplyDeleteToday it's you, tomorrow it's the lady struggling with a pram at the bus stop; next week it's a chap from a different race whose car is in the traffic jam in front of him.
He will only stop if/when he grows up and realises what a CoconUNT he is being.
Fostermummy X
PS Man Wonderful wants me to add that "Real men love Real women of all shapes and sizes - it really is the person that is important, not the wrapper."
Good grief, what on earth goes through the head of someone like that. I really do struggle to understand x
ReplyDeleteThat is so cruel. Usually when you are overweight - I've been there and only just come out the other side, there's a reason for it and having someone shout abuse isn't going to help. Anyway, he's the ignorant twat hun so take no notice. We all love you for who you are! xx
ReplyDeleteI echo everything everyone else has written. He can't be having a nice life if he needs to behave in that way, and he doesn't have the lovely friends and family that you have, nor does he have lots of people who look forward to reading his blog every day. He forgot to say that you are also funny, intelligent, interesting, witty, talented and beautiful. I'm glad that you are you - you brighten my days.
ReplyDeletexx
That is quite possibly the best post I have ever read. So well written, setting the scene perfectly. What an absolute door knob.
ReplyDeleteGlad you've had the balls to write this, as well as get over it and move on. I truly salute you girlfriend.
You rock. Big time.
x x x
When I read this post "scrote" came to mind..........
ReplyDeleteI hope you gained laughter from some of the comments following your post, your readers have such a sense of humour and you should take strength from that (not that you need it! ;O))
I'm overweight and years ago I would have been in tears too. At almost pension age, I couldn't give a fiddlers fart anymore.
ReplyDeleteI was walking past a group of schoolboys a while back and one of them called me fat tw@t. I turned round and said "who said that, was it the ugly kid?" His mates fell about laughing and his face was as red as a baboons bum. I make no apologies for showing him up.
There is something scary about a person who would do such a weird, off the wall thing.
ReplyDeleteWho among us has not had something similar happen? The world is laced with idiots. How shameful when they make themselves known.
I am speechless what a blank hole lol. hugs and kisses x
ReplyDeleteWhat a complete nobber. Obviously has some hang up in his life.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your weekend pretty lady x
What a sad little man, you're fab, he's a twat. Simple. My friend's mum always says - when you wake up in the morning you'll be you, he'll still be a knob. Enjoy your Friday.
ReplyDeleteWell said you lovely lady. Enjoy your buns. Xx
ReplyDeleteWhat a rude ignoramous!take no notice!you are gorgeous!and cute as!enjoy your bun's,xx
DeleteUgh, people are vile.
ReplyDeleteI'm a size 22 and I used to be a lot bigger, and took up jogging to help me lose weight. I was jogging along the road, huffing and puffing, and some wanker yells fat abuse at me from their car! I was like HOLD ON, SONNY, I'm doing something about it?! CAN'T YOU SEE MY SUFFERING?
Either way I went home and ate a block of cheese and I haven't been jogging since because thanks to that mindless prick I am incredibly self conscious of doing exercise in public. Fucking eejits.
Anyway, sod Mr Nasty Man. You are beautiful! x
Some people just thrive on being nasty. My grandma always used to say that the devil doesn't keep his disciple for long! So hopefully he'll get his come-uppance pretty soon!
ReplyDeleteJune
You are a beautiful, intelligent, funky lady - he's a saddo, this bloke's brain cell is obviously very lonely!
ReplyDeleteI hope, after he heaved his wretched waste of skin out of view, he fell - unnoticed - down an uncovered man hole and is now having his danglers feasted on by rabid rats the size of wolf hounds. They shall then move on to the rest of him. When someone finds his carcass, the only bit left of him shall be his brain. Detectives will deduce, upon examining the fettered bit of gristle left behind, that it was too small to be of any use to anyone.
ReplyDeleteWhat. An. Utter. Toss-rag.
I know you know this - but you rock.
please be our new prime-minister! I hooted out loud then!
DeleteWell said! I really cannot fathom how anyone could think that is an acceptable way to behave... So glad you didn't let it bother you though. His remark really isn't worth a second thought!
ReplyDeleteKatie x
What a loser! Did you confront him?
ReplyDeleteCan you please hit him with a stick next time you see him.
besos
God I hate absolute tossers like that! Like somehow if you're carrying a few extra pounds it is the invitation for people to voice their opinion. I mean do you shout, 'you're really ugly' 'you're too thin' 'you've got a weird head' no we don't but somehow if you're carrying a bit of weight it's allowed.
ReplyDeleteChrist I hate people sometimes. Sorry about this wanker, I hope he gets a really horrible itch sometime and maybe trips.
Take that mean person!
dp
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What a rude pig. Imagine his life. You, madam, are excellent.
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong with people??? Who gives a %&&* about someone elses size...you are wonderful just as you are and he's nothing but a coward!
ReplyDeleteSorry you had to have this man intrude in to your life...
Tosser!!! xx
ReplyDeleteDamn it, if I hadn't given up chips and crisps for Lent I'd be hoeing into a bucket of grease right now!! You need one of my huge "you can fuck right off" floral headbands. They have magic "shut up" powers that work really well on ill-mannered gits who deserve to get the clap. Drop me a line love ... I want to send you some magic. xoxoxoxo
ReplyDeleteWhat an utter dick. I don't know why people feel that have the right /need to say things like that. Maybe its like a form of Tourettes.
DeleteI have big tits. I know I have, I've seen them, I buy my bras. I have lost count of the times men have commented on how big they are, like it is a revelation. Kicks the lot of them.
Hoorah for you.
You are fabulous, run a successful blog, and are a lovely person. He's an obnoxious git. I hope today you're feeling less hurt by this rudeness.
ReplyDeleteI have enormous pity for people like the man that said that horrible thing to you. I love the way you have such confidence and I can say I envy you for that. You are gorgeous, intelligent and so awesome. People like that man should learn just one single life lesson: if you don't have anything nice to say, shut the hell up. Simple, easy and so efficient. People nowadays are easily forgetting what "feelings" mean.
ReplyDeleteLot sof big bear hugs to you, hun.
xx
I am so sad that people live in a world where they belive it's hilarious to do this sort of thing. Where is the beauty in belittling others? Where is the joy? How does this edify their life in any way? How empty they must be inside.
ReplyDeleteYou on the other hand, can carry on being your wonderful self without having to carry around the baggage of vitreol inside you! xxx
I've had a couple of incidents over the past week that have really wound me up too. Firstly I said to a 'friend' I was going to the Drs as I was really tired and falling asleep all the time. I suspected it was anaemia (and it was) but she said 'well you know what they'll say' ...erm... "What's that?".... "they'll tell you to do something about your weight, you're obese" !!! Words failed me at that point, last time I checked anaemia was caused by my heavy periods and fibroids not being fat!!! Then only yesterday I was saying my Fibromyalgia is bad at the moment to which a different friend kindly pointed out that I was fat and most fat people's feet and legs would hurt regardless of Fibro.... well my Fibro developed when I was 9 stone and part of the reason I am fat is my illness, lack of activity and depression... all due to Fibro!
ReplyDeleteMaybe I need a change of friends lol!!!
I just think 'fat' is the next target, I am fed up to my back teeth of the humiliation of overweight people on tv as they are forced to puff up hills and do press ups. And this has caused the wider public to think they have the right to pass judgement on anyone who isn't conforming to what they think women should look like.
There's always some moron patrolling around deciding to shout off a few bullyboy comments. I'm glad this post pities him, because that's what he is, an object of pity. Good on you, girl! xx
ReplyDeleteSuch a sad man, I really pity him. Good on you for blogging about it. Some people are just so damn rude! x
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How rude! It really makes you wonder about some folk doesn't it?
ReplyDeleteIts such a shame that this guys doesn't realise what a sad ignorant figure he is, but given time I am sure that reality will hit him.
X x
I'm a leggy bird (just under 6ft) and in heels I tend to totter in at 6'4. I always get 'Blimey, you're tall...' I tend to reply with a feigned shock... 'Oh Bugger, when did that happen?' or 'oh Yes...I worked very hard and passed all my height exams'.
ReplyDeleteI would love to have the quick wit to say 'Yes...and you have a massive nose/forehead/set of gnashers'.
Well done for having enough self love to say 'fuck off' in blog format and to not get upset. xxxx
Well, you have to understand that Neanderthal-Man just finds it so hard to engage that thing called 'brain' before he opens his mouth, it's some sort of mental flatulence I suspect...
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Im a body double for Twiggy!!!! right NOT ....just remember the fat are the last majority to have nobody interested in fighting the discrimination against them ...........best laugh the other day reading the paper , apparently in suffering from "body denial syndrome" because i cant possibly be happy being this size .......forgive me for i have sinned im a happy fat bird ...love you lots, hope he dies of something slow and painful
ReplyDeleteThat last bit made me snort my tea. :D
ReplyDeleteI've been shouted at. It's at these times I wish I had a magical nose like Samantha in Bewitched, where I could just wiggle it and make their hot coffee fall into their lap. xx
What a nasty git! Ignore him, he sounds like an oxygen thief! PS I love telling my friends about your blog when I see you on TV!xx
ReplyDeleteOh for the love of....if I had a penny for every time a guy (and its always a guy) shouted stuff about me being fat at me in the street, then I'd have my own Mulberry handbag by now. It really makes me mad that people think they can pass judgement on other people - after all I dont comment on people being stupid or ugly or anything else, because you know what, those things do not matter.
ReplyDeleteGood on you Mrs Thrifty for taking the sticks and stones approach to dealing with this neanderthal who clearly has no friends, manners, moral compass, interests outside himself or any kind of thought processes happening in his tiny brain. You on the other hand are bright, gregarious, funny, with a whole host of interesting ways to spend your time, you have Mr Thrifty, and hundreds of people who read you daily with a smile on their face. He will always be an idiot; you will always be lovely!
ReplyDeleteI am fat.
ReplyDeleteI look at you and always think how beautiful you are. I envy you your looks - oh and of course you are much younger than me - lol!!
A relative is always on at me about my weight so I can understand what you say.
You and I live successful loving lives with loving guys - we don't feel any need to shout at people in the street or try to hurt others.
Says it all really :)
Much love,
L.x.
hey thrifty,just wanted to say I love your blog.I have to say when i was at vintage village last I seen you walk in as i was walking out and initially i was nudging the hubby saying omg thats the girls blog who I read and come over all coy when you see a celebrity.Your a very pretty woman and i very much wanted to come over and say something but I didnt have the balls! keep up the exellent work.And remember KEEP CALM AND EAT CAKE :)
ReplyDeleteI've always loved how you look, a brilliant, fun person. I used to be a size 22 and have heard it all, also being called ugly when younger. I lost the weight but I still find it difficult to look people in the eye when out and about, old habit, if I don't catch their eye I can't see if they are looking at me.
ReplyDeleteLoved the lady who said to the kid who said that was it the ugly one.
What a cheeky man with no manners. I had one of those free BMI tests the other day, And it said I was verging on obese, I was like oooooooooh, then she tried to sell me some drinks to eat instead of eating food!
ReplyDeleteBecca
Sad to know such men aren't restricted to where I live in Melbourne. More often than I'd like to think, I get a car load of speeding young men yell out 'fat slut!' when I am walking down the street. They seem to miss to irony of their slur:that my size makes me able to have sex with lots of men or something to that effect...if they ever stopped their car I would ask them, 'Would you like someone to speak to your mother or sister like that?'. Sadly I have never had the opportunity.
ReplyDeleteLove this!
ReplyDeleteNot the ill-mannered offensive oaf, obviously, but your ability to laugh his ill-mannered offensiveness.
p.s. Save me a bun ;)
You are ace. I love your blog. I get the same thing by looking a bit different, and living a stupid little town of people that seem to need dragging into this century. Worst, its always younger people. Older people, especially little old ladies are always lovely. More to be pitied than scorned was the phraze my nan always used!
ReplyDeletep.s. I have a dandy little 70`s deer pendant for you. Drop me your address, and I will send it over! (oddydoodle@vags.net)
It's horrible that there are people that ignorant and rude on this earth! Your gorgeous and have amazing style, who care what idiots like him think :) xxx
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People think they are so brave shouting out insults when they are in a car or with other people. I bet he wouldn't have dared say that if he passed you in the street or was on his own. You are gorgeous and clever and I love seeing you on superscrimpers! There are some rude, ignorant and very sad people in this world.
ReplyDeleteI had a bloke yelling at me on Sat night asking if I had changed my knickers....????? I thought oh nice touch how proud your parents must be of you.... Mrs Thrifty I love your blog and you neer fail to make me giggle, unfortunately we live in a world where people like this exist. I too feel sorry for them because they will grow old only lonely with an attitude like that.
ReplyDeleteP.S I always change them ;-)
well he was clearly a total wanker, perhaps he should concentrate on sorting himself out before churning out his twaddle. What an arse.
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i think you're my new favourite person.
ReplyDeletelove, a fellow fatty.